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As a mother of three young children, I’ve experienced it all when it comes to bedtime: happy and peaceful good nights, holding my baby the entire night so he won't wake up, all the way to hysterical crying and thrashing.

Every Age Can Be Hard

At every stage of your child’s life, bedtime can be tricky for different reasons. Either they don’t know how to self-soothe and fall asleep without being held, or they’re old enough to keep running out of bed and coming up with a new excuse to not go to bed.

In my household, because we have three boys within 20 months of each other, including twins, getting them to peacefully and predictably go to sleep is imperative for everyone’s energy and health.

Use a Bedtime Routine

In my experience, the most effective method to get my kids to go to bed was to maintain a structure and follow the routine every night, even when my kids are too young to talk.

According to medical experts, routines actually help children feel calm and in control. Bedtime usually means separating from you, even for a couple hours, so the ability for your child to be able to predict and know what to expect is very comforting and eases their anxiety.

When you set a new routine in place, it may take up to a week or two of consistency to get your child to happily follow it, but they will eventually like the predictability of it.

Here is my bedtime routine for my children:

  1. Take bath
  2. Drink milk
  3. Brush teeth
  4. Read a book
  5. Kiss and say good night
  6. Bedtime

 

As long as we keep to the schedule, my kids go to bed happily. If I am late at all and my children become overtired, then they start to fight the routine, and it becomes a tough night for everyone.

 

由于三个年幼的孩子的母亲,我已经经历了这一切,当谈到睡前:欢乐祥和的良好的夜晚,抱着我的宝宝整个晚上,所以他也不会醒,一路歇斯底里的哭泣和抖动。

每一个时代是很难

在孩子的生活中的每一个阶段,睡前可以是棘手的原因不同。他们或者不知道如何自我安慰,睡着了没有被关押,或他们长大了,可以继续运行下床来到了一个新的借口,不睡觉。

在我家,因为我们有20个个月的各其他的,包括双胞胎中的三个男孩,让他们以和平和可预见的去睡觉当务之急是每个人的精力和健康。

使用就寝时间

根据我的经验,最有效的方法,让我的孩子们上床睡觉是保持一个结构,并按照常规,每天晚上,甚至当我的孩子太年轻,说话。

据医学专家介绍,其实套路帮助孩子感到平静和控制。睡前通常是指从你分开,即使是几个小时,这样的能力,为您的孩子能够预测并知道会发生什么事情是非常令人欣慰和减轻他们的焦虑。

当您设置的地方一个新的程序,它可能需要一个或两个一致性星期让你的孩子快乐地遵守它,但他们最终会喜欢它的可预测性。

这是我为我的孩子的就寝时间:

  1. 就拿洗澡
  2. 喝奶
  3. 刷牙
  4. 读一本书
  5. 亲吻和说晚安
  6. 睡前
     

只要我们坚持的时间表,我的孩子上床愉快。如果我迟到的一切,我的孩子变得过度疲劳,然后他们开始打的套路,它成为一个艰难的夜晚为大家。

 

When Is Your Child's Sleep Window

There is a specific window during which my children are tired and will go to bed happily. If I miss that window, even by 15 minutes, then I have to be prepared for fighting and crying.

Contrary to popular belief, pushing your child’s bedtime won’t make them happier to go to bed, unless there are extenuating circumstances, like traveling all day and they didn't nap the entire day and they are so exhausted that they can’t stay awake.

For example, my oldest son’s bedtime had been pushed to 9:30pm. However, he’d keep getting up, making excuses, and wouldn’t fall asleep until 10:30pm.

However, I knew he was tired and that his bedtime was too late, so we started having him go to sleep at 8:30pm instead. He’d consistently fall asleep within 15 minutes and not get out of bed. It was amazing.

如果是你的孩子的睡眠窗口

有一个特定的窗口,在此期间,我的孩子们累了,就会去睡觉愉快。如果我错过了这个窗口,甚至15分钟,那么我必须为战斗而哭闹准备。

流行的看法相反,推你的孩子的就寝时间不会让他们更快乐上床,除非有情有可原,喜欢旅游了一整天,他们不午睡了一整天,他们都太累了,他们不能留清醒。

例如,我的大儿子睡前已被推迟到晚上9:30。但是,他会不断起床,找借口,又不会睡着,直到晚上10:30。

但是,我知道他累了,他的就寝时间已经来不及了,所以我们开始让他去晚上8:30睡觉吧。他会一直睡着15分钟内,不下床。这是惊人的。

Free Bedtime Routine Checklist Download 

To help you better set a routine for your child in a fun and friendly way, here is a bedtime checklist you can print and use with your child every night. I recommend framing it and using an erasable marker on the glass so you can wipe off the checkmarks and reuse it every night.

免费睡前例行检查表下载

为了帮助您更好地设定在一个有趣的和友好的方式为您的孩子一个套路,这里是一个睡前清单,你可以打印,并与您的孩子天天使用。我建议制定并使用可擦除标记在玻璃上,所以你可以去除复选标记,每晚重复使用。

Bedtime Checklist

Free Downloadable Bedtime Sleep Routine Checklist!

To get our bedtime checklist for your child, click here.